The date that never ends!!

 You know what's the most endearing type of romance? The ones where you feel safe and comfortable. The ones where you feel that you're not being judged. The ones that make you squirm, weak in the knees and just keeps longing for that one text message, for that one phone call or just that one glimpse of your loved one.

A friend told me that if you've been in a relationship for a long time, it's not love anymore and just compassion. It's the belief and the compassion that every morning, you wake up next to your partner and you know for a fact that you cannot ever be the person that they want you to be, but you arrive and endeavour for every minute and every second of your life to be as close as possible to the person they want you to be. And it's the same in your partner's case. That's what makes or breaks a relationship. 

But well, I beg to differ. Don't you think that's what love is? People have various ways of giving it a nomenclature. They have various ways of giving a tag to romantic relationships. Wife, Husband, Partner, Lover, girlfriend, Boyfriend and what not. At the end of the day, we all want and strive to be the person who they all want us to be.

Look at us for instance, every morning, I wake up next to you, and look at you lying, snoring, snorting and just being you, on my horribly sore arm (trust me I've tried and hug and roll thingy, doesn't work) and wonder, how lucky I have been to have you in my life. And I am pretty sure, you'd also be wondering, how lucky I am that you're a part of my life. 😉 

I think that's what love is. It does have different nomenclatures, different connotations, but it's love at its purest form. The constant efforts you put to ensure that I feel safe and secure. The regular texts during the day asking if I have eaten, the daily exchange of gestures, the care you have for me. Your constant reassurances to keep my anxieties at bay. The constant banter we have about how I have better friends. The way you make me feel that it's okay to be vulnerable and that it's okay to have and express emotions. And the way we both keep longing to be in each other's arms after a long tiring day. If that's not love, I do not know what is. 

I remember our first date as if it happened just yesterday. After being immensely anxious about how things are going to be, thanks to my past relationships and my general apprehensions about anything new in life, we set a date. It was such a warm and a comfortable feeling to see you that day. You were in your beautiful best. A glow in your eyes, a smile that could light up and entire city and a demeanor about an extremely composed person. It was like, I was trying to look at the person I've wanted to be on first dates. PS- I love it when your eye liners match your dress.🙈 

Our first date was as good as it could possibly be.  The subsequent dates though, were so much more gleeful. We laughed, we danced, we cried, we ate a lot and drank a bit but most importantly, we spoke a lot.  It's been such a long time we've been together. Right from the time I first met, to our first hug, to our first kiss, to our first walk holding hands, the first time we made love, the first time we started living together and from the time we got married, it's been nothing but one hell of a roller coaster ride. 

People say that things sober down after a few years into the relationship. But I beg to differ. Things don't sober down. It's just that people stop making efforts. That's not the case with us though. From the time I first met you, and for all those years we've been together and will be for the rest of our lives, I will always strive to make that effort to impress you. To randomly compliment on how gorgeous you are... To randomly steal kisses..  to flirt... To ensure that you're alright...to ensure that you landed safely after a long flight.. to check on you constantly... To ensure you're comfortable, satisfied and happy in all ways possible. Because I know for a fact that you are and would be doing that for me.  

We are eager to tell random work stories, we are eager to call each other out on our bull shits, we are always longing to spend time with each other.. to make love to each other. I guess that's the reason we've been in a loving relationship... Because even after a terrible fight, we know that we love each other... Even after a tumultuous day, we know that we're there for each other. We own and accept each other's flaws. Because flaws are what makes a person beautiful. 

And today, on our tenth anniversary, as I am eagerly waiting for you get ready, I sit down and look at you. I can't begin to imagine  how lucky I have been. You have the same glow in your eyes. The smile could still light up the entire city and you're wearing the eyeliner that matches your dress. It's like a date that never ended.